[Feelings online] My dad died :(

Thor Kaufman · Post by **Thor Kaufman** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 12:05 pm

That sucks. Condolences

VasikkA · Post by **VasikkA** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 1:31 pm

My sympathies to you and your family.

Smiley · Post by **Smiley** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 2:38 pm

Condolences to you and yours. I'm sorry to hear it

Antimeasure · Post by **Antimeasure** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 3:59 pm

Too bad

Aonaran · Post by **Aonaran** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 4:09 pm

Truest sympathies for your loss.

POOPERSCOOPER · Post by **POOPERSCOOPER** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 4:18 pm

Sorry to hear that. You still go one brother left

niejadek5 · Post by **niejadek5** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 5:23 pm

Condolences.

entertainer · Post by **entertainer** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 6:31 pm

Post by **Dogmeatlives** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 6:53 pm

Jeez.... hang in there man

St. Toxic · Post by **St. Toxic** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 7:04 pm

Were you close?

Insane-Lark · Post by **Insane-Lark** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 9:35 pm

Sorry to hear. Sending my thoughts to you & yours.

SenisterDenister · Post by **SenisterDenister** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 10:07 pm

Good luck getting through all this man. Sorry for your loss.

cazsim83 · Post by **cazsim83** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 11:49 pm

sorry Stainless - best wishes, I wish I could offer more

Wolfman Walt · Post by **Wolfman Walt** » Sat Mar 14, 2009 12:25 am

Really sorry to hear it man, if you need some L4Ding or something to cheer you up or anything, let me know and I'll drop what I'm doing.

johnnygothisgun · Post by **johnnygothisgun** » Sat Mar 14, 2009 12:49 am

so it goes

stay strong stain brother

Blargh · Post by **Blargh** » Sat Mar 14, 2009 1:22 am

What to say ?

I hope he did not suffer.

Jesus Christ · Post by **Jesus Christ** » Sat Mar 14, 2009 1:51 am

Post by **Manoil** » Sat Mar 14, 2009 10:30 am

Sorry, Andy. But know he'd probably not want you to be in pain. Grieve for him, but accept the loss, and it will heal as fast as it able.

Post by **Retlaw83** » Sat Mar 14, 2009 12:28 pm

Manoil wrote:it will heal as fast as it able.

Bullshit.

Having lost my father when I was 19, the sad fact of the matter is it never heals. You accept it eventually, and your life becomes a new kind of normal. The pain fades, but it doesn't leave.

On the upside, I doubt that I would be as good a man as I am today if I had my father to rely on the past eight years. I carry his memory and that helps me through, but when it comes down to it I have to rely on myself.

I don't know what your relationship with him was, but I know words ring hallow in situations like these. Because of constraints of our language, all anyone can really say is, "I'm sorry for your loss," but that doesn't adequately express how you feel.

My advice to you is to keep what he'd want to have happen next in mind, keep focused on the important things, and don't let grief cloud your judgment. They sound like common sense things, I know, but mourning can often overshadow it.