im being honest

cazsim83 · Post by **cazsim83** » Tue Sep 11, 2007 7:15 pm

leave it to a chick to actually post something meaningful about relationships.

Subhuman · Post by **Subhuman** » Tue Sep 11, 2007 7:18 pm

johnnygothisgun wrote:also extrapolating my emotional age from my posts on an internet forum would seem somewhat inaccurate?

You'd be suprised.

What Tingel Tangel said for teh win, although if this happened a year ago I'd say your chances for getting back together with her are pretty much nil.

johnnygothisgun · Post by **johnnygothisgun** » Tue Sep 11, 2007 7:21 pm

Tingel Tangel wrote:Depends. How did you break her heart? How big were the issues. Are you sure you still want her, or are you just frightened to be alone, without her, because you're used to being with her? Does she love you? What did you say the last times you broke her heart and she took you back? Would you be willing to just take it slow and not jump right back into the relationship?

She might not trust you anymore. She might want to and be uncertain. You could try to talk it over with her, nice and quiet, and tell her that you've found out that you were afraid, but that you've also found out that you're not anymore. And let her know that you respect the fact that she might not trust you anymore, but that you'd like to take it easy if she'd be up for that. If you go "I want us to be a couple again" there's a big chance that she would get scared and not trust you enough to give you another chance. If you went "I'd like for us to take it slow and see if we can keep communicating and resolve whatever might be wrong and then maybe build something on top of what we already had" she might just get all horny at you.

we had been dating for a few weeks when i caught the "i gotta get outta here" bug, and i told her that we should back off. not long after i told her i how it had been a mistake, and we got back together. things were really very great for a while after that. then as now, i loved being around her, and was absolutely crazy about her. we had a lot in common, communication was easy and pleasant, and overall the situation was wonderful. months later i went away for a week and halfway through i once again got the thought, "ive gotta end this, ive gotta get out of this" and when i returned i sat her down and we talked and talked, and i remember coming up with the excuses just as i was giving them. over the past year ive sort of manned up and come to realize that i was very afraid that id let someone get to close, because im so painfully introspective and personal it was just scary for me. will post more later, have to go to class

Locke · Post by **Locke** » Tue Sep 11, 2007 10:20 pm

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Mechanurgist · Post by **Mechanurgist** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 1:47 am

Hey, man, I'm living the True Love lifestyle right now so I'm gonna play the optimist here and say that whether it takes 2, 3, 4, or 15 tries, if this is the chick you feel great being around then try as many times as it takes! This isn't a scorecard, what matters is how the two of you feel together. Now, she's probably very suspicious of you right now so you'll have to work hard to earn back the lost trust, but try it again. Be persistent, and if she really loves you too then all will be forgotten. Make amends and explain that you were confused/frightened/stupid but make it clear that now you're better and you know what you want.

Final piece of advice: don't take advice from a forum full of people who post goatse in their spare time. You'll hurt yourself.

TNP · Post by **TNP** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 8:48 am

Ok. If you really really really really really really want THIS woman. You should not have broken up with her twice. You honestly think women like it when a guy brakes up with them and think you can just get back with them like that? No. Now, it's gonna be very hard to get back with her and you're gonna take it very very slow and be patient without braking. Remember, women are verbally stimulated, it's what you say that counts. Talk to her for a while and don't act like a pussy going "waa waaa come back to me i miss you soooo much waaaaaaaaaaa!!!".

Shame on me for actually agreeing with the fucking forum feminist bitch or the lowly scroungy little cocksucker, but do what Tingel said. I say move the fuck on and find another one and let it rest until you scrape up better personal welfare and better yourself before you jump into a relationship because you don't seem very stable, but that's just me.

Tingel Tangel · Post by **Tingel Tangel** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 10:10 am

TNP wrote: the fucking forum feminist bitch

Oh, baby, if you keep giving me such lovely titles, I'm going to have to marry you...

popscythe · Post by **popscythe** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 10:17 am

I move this suit be immediately declared null and void as the participants are obviously unfit to carry on a conversation without further council.

johnnygothisgun · Post by **johnnygothisgun** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 3:19 pm

i talked to her last night. i told her how i feel, and everything, everything

my god do i feel better. ill actually be able to sleep tonight. were pretty much closer than ever, which feels very good

she seems pretty wishy washy with the new guy shes seeing, but im not gonna sit around and get my hopes up. moreover, i know i really do love her because i can live with seeing her and another guy, and i truly just want her to be happy, whatever that entails

:personal-growth:

Tingel Tangel · Post by **Tingel Tangel** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 4:38 pm

Sounds good, Johnny.

On a different note, but somewhat similar: an ex called me up yesterday evening and we talked for about an hour and he started telling me how he was real sorry that he'd been a prick and a bastard when he ended it. And my best friend and I then later went for a walk and he told me about how he'd had a crush on me and didn't know that I had had one on him and that he was sorry that the chance had gone by. So what's with the personal growth thing? Something you're just all going through these days?
Color me confuzzled.

Urizen · Post by **Urizen** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 4:53 pm

i've been fighting a bit with the bf lately, and i broke up with him on friday and then i took him back on monday. :colour me spineless:

Dreadnought · Post by **Dreadnought** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 4:59 pm

Homos don't have emotions. They have clockworks.

Anyway, this shit kinda inspires me to call up a certain ex of mine, and talk to her.
She hates me a lot though, so I guess she wouldn't even want to talk to me. Also, her boyfriend has an inferiority complex because of me, because my ex totally embarrassed him by telling me in front of other people that his dick is smaller and that he can't fuck properly.
So they're all full of hate. Man... the whole shit would fit into a whole separate thread for itself. It's just so much... DAC, what should I do? Kill her? Call her? I need some assassin... I mean ASSISTANCE with that. Yes.

Khan Noonien Singh · Post by **Khan Noonien Singh** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 5:20 pm

I find many of your claims doubtful, friend Dreadnought.

cazsim83 · Post by **cazsim83** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 7:26 pm

Khan Noonien Singh wrote:I find many of your claims doubtful, friend Dreadnought.

yeah, like the fact that you actually have exes. WhoTF would take you in the first place?

Caleb · Post by **Caleb** » Wed Sep 12, 2007 7:48 pm

never know...calling exes can work out decently. made peace with one of mine, now i don't have to worry about bullshit whenever i see certain people...

and jesus, everyone just chill the fuck out...it helps.

edhead · Post by **edhead** » Thu Sep 13, 2007 3:12 pm

Several friends of mine keep doing that dump-get back-repeat procedure for years now, and tough it's 100% clear that in the end, they'll just cut each other off for good, they keep doing that shit. I mean, how the fuck can you dump somebody twice and still think that you love her/him? I guess it's beyond my lowly level of comprehension.

cazsim83 · Post by **cazsim83** » Thu Sep 13, 2007 5:24 pm

Caleb wrote:never know...calling exes can work out decently. made peace with one of mine, now i don't have to worry about bullshit whenever i see certain people...

and jesus, everyone just chill the fuck out...it helps.

Yeah, exes are cool especially for that "one more one night stand" kinda stuff.

And everybody is chilling out - you should see 'em when they talk about Bethesda or Oblivion or Fallout 3. Shit gets nasty.

Caleb · Post by **Caleb** » Thu Sep 13, 2007 6:45 pm

edhead wrote:Several friends of mine keep doing that dump-get back-repeat procedure for years now, and tough it's 100% clear that in the end, they'll just cut each other off for good, they keep doing that shit. I mean, how the fuck can you dump somebody twice and still think that you love her/him? I guess it's beyond my lowly level of comprehension.

People are fucking retarded. They can't let go and can't tolerate change, so they hang on and cling, even when theres no hope. Just so that they can keep up their happy little illusion.

cazsim83 wrote: Yeah, exes are cool especially for that "one more one night stand" kinda stuff.

And everybody is chilling out - you should see 'em when they talk about Bethesda or Oblivion or Fallout 3. Shit gets nasty.

Thats righteous hatred, not irrational emotional ejaculations.

Khan Noonien Singh · Post by **Khan Noonien Singh** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 6:55 am

Caleb wrote:
edhead wrote:Several friends of mine keep doing that dump-get back-repeat procedure for years now, and tough it's 100% clear that in the end, they'll just cut each other off for good, they keep doing that shit. I mean, how the fuck can you dump somebody twice and still think that you love her/him? I guess it's beyond my lowly level of comprehension.
People are fucking retarded. They can't let go and can't tolerate change, so they hang on and cling, even when theres no hope. Just so that they can keep up their happy little illusion.

The human clings not to what will make him happiest, but to what is easiest. This is true in all aspects of life. If there is opportunity to remain or reconnect with a young lady with whom he has a past, regardless of previous drama and unsuitability he will take that chance rather than chance rejection by seeking another.